I was having a little chat with a friend a few weeks ago and the topic of monogamy came up. We were debating a bit over the benefits of monogamy or being in a polygamy or polygamous relationship when I realised…
I was not a monogamy supporter. Much to my surprise.
Why do I say that a polygamous relationship would be better? I think that it’s possible to love more than one person at a time. Love itself can mean many many different things and for this post, I would not break it down. And obviously it’s possible to lust over more than one person at a time.
We were build to have many relationships back in those caveman times. Those emperors had many concubines and they all learnt how to share. In some countries, the muslims have more than one wife.
It’s only in later years, we were wired to think of only having one life partner. Information was drummed over and over into us that we were guilty and wrong if we lusted or loved more than one person.
While I’m fine with being in a monogamous relationship, I do think it does have its drawbacks. (Please note that I have never strayed before. Emotionally or Physically.)
I think if we were “allowed” to love more than one, there will be less heartbreaks (and of course, we would have to learn how to share, just like a kid learning to share his beloved toys with his siblings). Ideally, there will be less cases of im leaving you because i don’t feel for you, lesser cases of cheating since u are licensed to fuck more than one. We will be allowed to love more than one, which does make sense. It’s not always where you can find a soul mate. Let’s face it, in some relationships, you stay with the person not because you love him/her, but because it’s the “right” thing to do.
But of course, whether it’ll (polygamous relationships) actually work is a different thing. It’s an ideal situation in an ideal world.
Unfortunately, we humans just love to screw everything up. Don’t we?
sad to say yea we humans tend to screw things up
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Hmm I’m not very familiar with this. But is the kind of polygamy you’re suggesting only exclusive to men? Meaning a man can have many wives or would a woman be allowed to have many husbands? ‘Cos if it isn’t, essentially one woman will still end up with one partner right? And she would only be allowed to have one partner (unless the man is open-minded enough to accept that he isn’t her only one)..
Also, would it mean that we shouldn’t have legally-binding agreements such as marriage to govern our relationships? (‘cos mutual polygamy will really be quite a complication)
Sigh and it’d also be hard to control the spreading of STDs right?
Haha I hope I didn’t overload you. >.< But hey I’m not saying that I think you’re wrong ‘cos I do agree with the benefits that polygamy can bring
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Hmm I’m not very familiar with this. But is the kind of polygamy you’re suggesting only exclusive to men? Meaning a man can have many wives or would a woman be allowed to have many husbands? ‘Cos if it isn’t, essentially one woman will still end up with one partner right? And she would only be allowed to have one partner (unless the man is open-minded enough to accept that he isn’t her only one)..
Also, would it mean that we shouldn’t have legally-binding agreements such as polygamous marriage to govern our relationships? (‘cos mutual polygamy will really be quite a complication)
Sigh and it’d also be hard to control the spreading of STDs right?
Haha I hope I didn’t overload you. >.< But hey I’m not saying that I think you’re wrong ‘cos I do agree with the benefits that polygamy can bring
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gracey: yeah we do…
whoosh: in an ideal world, everyone would have safe sex! :p anyway… i think it would be both the woman and man can have many partners.. wouldn’t be fair if only one party is allowed to have many partners…
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